Tuesday, November 08, 2005

My Father


My dad would have turned 83 this month. He was like John Wayne to me when I was a child, and a good friend until the end. He never became a critic of my artistic endeavors. The last time I saw him, I kissed him on the forehead and told him I loved him. That was the first time I had kissed him in 40 years. Kiss your loved ones before you can't anymore. This photo was taken in 1957. Joseph and Joseph JR.

23 Comments:

At 1:05 AM, Blogger Bri said...

Oh, Joeboy, this is such a good photo and blog. He looks so happy holding you. 1957. Wow.

I was born that year. I only had my dad with me for the first four years and then my folks divorced and he moved away; thereafter, only twice a year for a week at a time.

We need our dads. Thanks for sharing this.

 
At 8:03 AM, Blogger JoeBoy said...

Thanks Brina, I love the MP3 you posted. I guess I should tell you on your blog eh.

 
At 8:22 AM, Blogger Kid Ric said...

You know it. Time is too short not to share it and show your love for the people you care about.

Yea, I was Air Force.

Peace, love and light on this Veterans' Day to you and yours.

 
At 9:06 AM, Blogger Mary Beth said...

I love this picture. When I look back at similar old pictures we have, I often wish it was back at that time now - the world was so different back then, so much simpler it seems, and those pictures are full of those who I miss and are long gone. Sometimes I swear I was born in the wrong decade, or century for that matter! :o)

Mary Beth

 
At 10:06 AM, Blogger Kid Ric said...

My Son and I were blessed today with the sight of two white doves flying together. I put pictures up on my blog to share with you.

Peace, love and light to you and yours.

 
At 10:12 AM, Blogger Marietta said...

Hi Joe
thanks for visiting my blog. I can tell you my heart missed a bit with Keith's photo.
I LOVE HIM! His talent, his character, his cheekiness, his looks...everything!
Have you seen my painting with him on my blog? October post called The Mod Couple.

I love the photo of you and your dad.
I never met my father. He died when I was three, on the day Man landed on the Moon.
It's fantastic that you have memories of him, although I don't know which hurts more: having known someone special and then losing them, or never meeting them and hear all kinds of fantastic stories about them?

Take care,
Marietta

 
At 10:54 AM, Blogger Marietta said...

Sorry, I meant my heart skipped a beat and not missed a bit...lol

 
At 2:20 PM, Blogger AlianaDrex said...

Thanks for comming to see me. I know your Dad is so proud and the picture is so sweet. My mother and I are like Lucy (me, I usually get us into trouble) and Ethel. I can't even imagine what I would do without her. This was such a sweet tribute.
I love your blog. I'll be back.
Ali

 
At 3:22 PM, Blogger BallerinaGurl said...

What a sweet blog! I am very close to my dad and cannot imagine what I will do when he ever passes! He is my rock and I am fortunate enough to marry someone who is a lot like him! My other rock!!

I am sadly estranged from my step-mum. She has many many problems, but when she is ready I will forgive her! I kissed her last time I saw her and always do...NO REGRETS!

Thanks for the post. I have to run now but good memories came up reading this. I will have to post a pic of me and my dad next :)

Molly

 
At 3:45 PM, Blogger Lo said...

Thanks for visiting my page. great pic and great motto. it is always good to tell the ones you care most about that you do care about them.

 
At 3:50 PM, Blogger Anne-Marie said...

Joe,

what a sweet photo. My father died in 2001, after losing his 4th battle with cancer. There is not a day that goes by without me thinking of him, and he would have been 79 last week. You are so right that we need to kiss our loved ones while we can.

Great fathers are a gift. I am so glad you posted this to remind us all of our gifts.

-Anne-Marie

 
At 4:55 PM, Blogger Marietta said...

Hello again...

So you liked the painting that much? I am truly honoured.

Your blog is v. interesting.

I'll be back!

 
At 7:02 PM, Blogger Elaine said...

It's wonderful to have had a father who was a hero to you. Our parents are the ones who should be our heros. Thanks for visiting my blog.

 
At 6:32 AM, Blogger :phil: said...

My Dad would have been 87 this past summer. He had a stoke 30 years ago and died 16 years ago. I miss hime too. He was a great harmonica player and I am somewhat of a guitarist. I regret that we never really got to jam. Enjoy our loved ones while you can, nothing lasts forever

 
At 8:25 AM, Blogger Dakota said...

My dad died almost 20 years ago. I was with him when he died, but it was sudden and there was no time for proper goodbyes. I’m thankful for the close bond we always had. I still think of him lovingly, he was such a great dad!

I love this picture and your post, thanks for sharing :)

 
At 9:17 AM, Blogger Michael said...

I wish I had a relationship with my dad. He left us when I was 3 Kathy 4 and Gina 1 1/2. He came around every now and then. He owned a bar and on Sundays my mother said I would be sitting on the porch with my baseball glove waiting for him to come. That never happened. My step-dad(whos named I took when I was 25 was/is a workaholic. He owned a few auto dealerships and provided us well but never was a dad. I love reading stories about men and their dads with pictures of when they were young. I have a logitech camera that I use with my boys to see them and talk to them. I tell them bedtime stories and play music on the guitar. Please go to my Blog site and pull up the post on October 2nd and that will wrap it up. thanks michael :)

 
At 9:59 AM, Blogger Gary said...

Wow, what a nice blog post that was. You loved him.

I love my Dad, haven't always had the best relationship with him. He's been critical of my music in the past, but lately I'm letting that go and playing stuff for him when he comes to visit. I see him every couple weeks. He has early stage dimentia, so, I know we will have a long goodbye. I'm glad through all of our struggles, I never said something truly hurtful to him, even though he caused the rest of us a lot of pain when he left, shortly after he moved us to America.

Marc Cohn has a wonderful song on his album Rainy Season called "Rest for the Weary", and it really sums up how I feel about him.

 
At 10:30 AM, Blogger Kid Ric said...

Thank you I think your right. A super big pat on the back. The birds inspired a new song called "Peace".

Peace, love and light to you and yours.

 
At 1:17 PM, Blogger Johanna in Vista said...

Hi Joe Boy,

Did I tell you my son's name is Joseph? I love that name...

The Who tribute band, that is my favorite and I've seen 1/2 dozen times is The Who Show...www.thewhoshow.com.

The guys in the band are terrific and very devoted to recreating a Who experience. I am so happy for them that they happened on this opportunity to do this Quadtribute show. I'll be posting my review of it for all to see, next weekend.

Joe's are cool. :)

Love,
Johanna

 
At 2:39 AM, Blogger Sam said...

Joe

Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner! been a hectic weekend!

I'm really glad you like the CD and I really appreciate you let me know!

We'd love to do a full band 'In The attic'. They're doing that 'Basement Jam' show in a few weeks. We were hinting to get on it but it didn't come off! there'll be others!

We've got plans to come over to the states soon. Our music gets a great response from people in america so we'd love to bring it to them! Play the CD to anyone you know who'd like to hear it. The more the word starts spreading, the more chance we have of breaking!

Cheers

Sam

 
At 2:58 PM, Blogger PTfan said...

What a wonderful post.
: )

 
At 11:06 AM, Blogger Meg said...

Joe;

What beautiful advice to give, it is so very true. I remember very vividly the last moments I spent with my father, I told him it was OK for him to stop fighting and let go. I felt he was way to good a man to let some disease reduce him to a shell of a man, I loved him too much to continue to watch that happen. I miss him every day of my life.

It is very true that you don't know what you've got till it's gone. So everyone who reads this take Joe's advice and cherish it now!

 
At 3:26 PM, Blogger lryicsgrl said...

hey joe,
i stopped by last night, and got teary. stopped by again today, wrote a really tearful comment, then my laptop failed on me. i will try again. maybe everything happens for a reason? maybe that comment exposed too much?
here's my new one:
i too know what it is like to kiss my father's brow, to let him slip off into death. i was a nineteen year old girl when my dad died. i remember vividly, before he passed, he saw John Wayne at an award ceremony. JW was also fighting CANCER at the time. my dad shouted 'give em hell duke". he said this as much to himself as to JW. i have two daughter's and a great husband. the hole in my heart is there, but the blessing of my father's life, has finally outweighed the tragedy of his death.

 

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